tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-39839786948110628312024-03-14T04:00:11.103+00:00It´s not me, It´s my hormones!Nerea Carryonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10784614696382051782noreply@blogger.comBlogger81125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3983978694811062831.post-37632294224087999292018-09-18T21:40:00.000+01:002018-09-18T23:47:12.740+01:00How to keep him engaged... Forever! The basics.<br />
What does it mean to get him engaged forever?<br />
Not to only make him chase you until he gets you but to also know that even if you break up, any time you want to go back with him, he will be there ready to go back with you even if the years have passed. Sounds arrogant, right? I know! I am a bit arrogant at times but I'm not attached to it and hope you aren't either.<br />
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Please don't take any of my articles personally if you have been my boyfriend or 'no boyfriend' before. You know me and you know I love and admire you a tone.<br />
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Probably some of you are asking, what kind of men do that!?!? Let me tell you more about them on my next article. You will be surprised.<br />
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Hight value women of the world... I know what you are thinking when you see the title of this article... "you mean how to get rid of him right?!?!" well that's the article I personally need to read sometimes but I know some of you are looking to read exactly the opposite, how to keep him engaged. Some women can't get rid of men who are REALLY engaged and some women wish they could get men more engaged. There has to be everything in this world... wow that sounded like my grandma! :P<br />
Let's focus on the second option today. How to keep him engaged.<br />
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Ok let's go to the point! (BUT PLEASE READ TO THE END, IS IMPORTANT!)<br />
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1. Make it hard for you to meet him, don't just meet him in the first text he sends you<br />
2. Break up every 2-3 months, so they know they need to work to keep you<br />
3. Stay focused on your life (not only your life with him but YOURS)<br />
4. Don't ever prioritise him over you or change your core values because of him.<br />
5. When you spend time with him or love him, do it in your best, DO IT the best you know. Stay really present. Have the BEST quality time with him he could ever have with anyone. Don't wait for him to bring the fun, bring it yourself.<br />
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Ok, I'm getting sick of hearing myself say these things! And probably you too! Excluding number 5 the other 4 sounded like the formula to stay alone forever!!! lol and that's exactly what it is... You will have great/ the best most intense relationships of all time which in fact are VERY fulfilling, BUT at some point, they will end.<br />
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Why? Because breaking every two or three months is exhausting for everyone. Intense yes, CEO 's love this formula (or people addicted to intensity) but is tiring as well unless you are NOT planning to settle with anyone, in that case, it maybe the perfect formula for you.<br />
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Now, IGNORE ALL THESE POINTS because, actually my blog post wasn't exactly about these!<br />
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There is something VERY REAL in this article, me and all the things I have just mentioned, I have experienced them, apply them into my life, unconsciously or consciously at times, for years! I have had more than 6 long term (from 3 to 6 years each) boyfriends in my 32 years of life and a few 'quick thing time' with another few (men I know you are probably asking... 'how many, how many?' well I don't really count them, I lost track long time ago! I know what you are thinking... but let's not go there.<br />
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Now what is real about all these? me, I told you! lol<br />
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There is something really good about following these 5 steps (yeah sorry I said forget these but let's go back to them).<br />
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You do satisfy your needs in many ways. These men make you feel important, special, the best. Something we all need to feel, SIGNIFICANT.<br />
As I said, your relationships will be INTENSE. You will have a relationship which you probably didn't even look for but that you attracted! AND HERE IS THE BIG THING 'ATTRACTED!!!!!'<br />
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You attract what you project or as David Daida would say... (You attract what you need not what you want) everything you experienced in life is mean to teach you something, all these men were supposed to be in my life, BIG TIME, and I know it and they know it and we love each other loads YET even after the break up! <3<br />
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How to attract men into your life that will be engaged forever or that AT LEAST will be a good friend forever? Let's ask this question again.<br />
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Is not only about your behaviour but your energy projected to the world and to them when they are around you.<br />
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I'm gonna say ONLY 2 THINGS that will hopefully open your eyes forever and will guide you on engaging these men around you. (You could replace the word 'men' for 'people' during the whole article and it would still make sense!)<br />
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1. HAVE CLARITY ON WHAT YOU WANT AND WHERE YOU ARE GOING<br />
Become a high quality woman, someone who have a direction in at least one area of your life, maybe in your career, your family plans, your values, what you are aiming for. You don't need to have all your life sorted or be the perfect woman but at least have some core clarity that guides you through life. Comment below for a BREAKTHROUGH SESSION if you feel that you need some help with this.<br />
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2. OPEN YOUR HEART, HE NEEDS TO SEE IT<br />
What a man (full of ego - sometimes) need more than someone to open their heart? In order for him to do this, he needs to see YOUR heart first so that he can trust you to open his heart. This could totally be applied for any gender direction (example: You as a woman could have more masculine energy so you maybe the one who needs its heart to be opened) but this is another long conversation.<br />
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When you cover these two points, YOU HAVE GOT IT (you become MAGNETIC, IRRESISTIBLE & ATTRACTIVE). That behaviour I just mentioned may just happen to you naturally, because the last thing I want you to do is to fake your behaviour. To do games.<br />
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I haven't faked guys, I have been myself and that has resulted in where I am right now, single but with a bunch of BEAUTIFUL, NEVER REGRETTABLE stories and experiences I would not want to delete from my life and a TONE of clarity of how is the man I would like to spend the rest of my life with! Is easier to realise what you want after you try something than if it all comes from a dream or a thought.<br />
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I will be covering all these and more on my POSE Workshop on the 6th & 7th in LONDON. It is only through application because I have A LOT of clarity of the profiles I am looking for to be part of this life changing workshop so weather you are a man or a woman looking to become more irresistible, magnetic and attractive. This workshop is for you! <a href="http://bit.ly/poseworkshop">APPLY HERE </a><br />
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A) '10 Tips to become Irresistible, Magnetic & Attractive'<br />
B) The men I am talking about on this article, who are they<br />
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<br />Nerea Carryonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10784614696382051782noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3983978694811062831.post-80705642972962251992018-01-24T22:03:00.001+00:002018-01-24T22:14:34.729+00:00Why he does not want to date me?!?<i>He is having more success than me...</i><br />
<i>e is is more beautiful than me, smarter than me, cooler, more humorous, more loving, more charismatic than me, richer...</i><br />
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<i>Because I don't think I have achieve what I wanted to achieve...</i><br />
<i>Because he is so popular and I'm not...</i><br />
<i>Because I'm afraid if I will ever get there...</i><br />
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<i>I don't know how he thinks and is difficult to learn more about him having in mind he does not want to date me. Is there any other way to learn more about him without falling in love and hopefully ending up being him the one who really wants to meet me instead of me being the one who wants to meet him??</i><br />
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<i>It hardly happen to have to push people to meet me, whats wrong here? </i><br />
<i>I want to talk to him more, at least one more time, I need to know the truth, the truth on why not me, whats wrong? Maybe I'm the wrong one thinking there is something wrong with me and thats why he is being pushed away... </i>Have you ever felt like this? Please share your story on the comments.<br />
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We sometimes have this tendency of thinking, <b>what is wrong with me? </b>And the truth is two things (I know that's poor English but it sounds fun to me). First, there are too many wrong things about you to answer this in a sort time, second, there is nothing, absolutely nothing wrong with you. These both statements are true, true for you, true for me. You have a choice to focus on what is wrong with you and what is right, or what is neither wrong or right. This is right :D Did I lose you? Uff ok, welcome back.<br />
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<b>You can always work in yourself </b>and you can always chill and accept things how they are. As I always say, where is your balance? If you have a strong pattern then perhaps there is something to work on but this will only be the case if you want to do so. If this just happens ones perhaps is just not the right guy for you or you are in a "down" time in your life when you don't feel the most confident.<br />
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Whatever is the answer, I'm with you. I respect it as much as I would like you to respect it because growth is about respect and relationships as well.<br />
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When all these insecurities come along <b>we have two choices</b>. Ignore them or ask ourselves why? this is exactly what we are doing today. Ignore them. lol jokes. ASK! Why do I feel this way? You are just insecure thinking that you are not good enough for that person and that already makes that person feel that you are not good enough... Yep psychology works in very strange ways. Your projection is your reality and projects other's reality as well. Same as someone looking happy tells you they are happy, someone being insecure tells you they are insecure and unless you are great compassionate person you may see them as weak or not enough for you as there are so many other humans in the world.<br />
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I highly recommend you work on building your confidence at all times but I also recommend you to <b>go one level higher</b> and realise that some men or women will like you as you are (with your qualities and your insecurities) and that is great because even when you work in your insecurities some new insecurities will rise from being in new, sometimes more challenging scenarios. So instead of resisting them, we work on them but also open up (we/YOU ARE READY) to meet that person, independently of where you are.<br />
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Hope you enjoyed the article, please share your thoughts below.<br />
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Thank you for reading!<br />
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Sure you have at least once felt like it in your life - STUPID, TONTA, IDIOT!<br />
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I feel like it right know. Everyone wants something from me, money, time, a fuck, something which sometimes makes sense, but other times you feel absorbed and used. This is our projection, I don't blame you or anyone who is involved in the stories I'm about to tell as I know I and only I create my reality but some people help you create a good one others help you create a shitty one.<br />
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The only good thing about me feeling like shit is that I'm here now, sharing all these with you all as I have none to share it with or none who inspire me enough to do so with (or maybe I just don't want to bother them... and I prefer to bother you ;). Thank you for reading.<br />
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Usually I write articles once I have learnt something, this article is hot, in the way that I'm feeling the pain right now!<br />
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Business wise.<br />
On top of my main business, The Happy World Company I also rent houses, few months ago, I rented a house, a friend of me passed me the tenant, I paid him £100 for that and the tenant left two weeks after this. There was few things in the way which I was not very good at, few mistakes as for example when she came the room was not the one I sent her on the picture (a mistake!) but still we fixed this new room in the way she wanted, painted, bought a bed etc etc. She was very happy and so on but then she found a spider in the kitchen and people was making noises AND she didn't like the area, so she decided to leave, all good by me (of course I thought the same you are thinking - a fucking pussy girl) but hey some people have higher standards that you and I! Not morally but superficially they do!<br />
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I said, its fine you can go, but give me one month notice, she didn't so I only returned her the deposit, but then my frustrated friend came along and said, no, no you should give her the monthly rent because bla bla bla. After discussing with my accountant, he said it was illegal to do so as in the contract she signed it says its one month notice, instead she should lose deposit and of course the rent which is already paid too. Even though I knew it was illegal and my colleague was advising me not to do so I did give the money back! Because I seriously couldn't bother to recieve his calls anymore, he was the most annoying person I have ever met, for a £100! please!!!<br />
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I will tell you why. The guy was texting me EVERY FREAKING DAY, ABUSE! Is called. It was SO absolutely annoying, what's the point to text someone when they are telling you, I will keep you updated, I will let you know by... Well some people does it. I am weak, I am weak to live in this world with people who has no idea about business and about morals, principals and basic things.<br />
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On top of this the guy I'm dating, after we slept together (even though I was telling him let's not kiss etc etc) he did. And it was nice, that's the problem with me. I like nice, I like good, I like kisses, I like his smell, he tells me TODAY he is going for a date. THAT FUCKING HURTS! WTF! Why would you do that to someone you care about? Oh ok he doesn't give a shit!?! You know I haven't got it yet, I still think he like me and loves me (even thought he never told me!) I'm a fucking idiot, stupid and I don't know what other words I could tell. I teach people not to insult themselves and to speak to themselves in a nice way. Fuck that! lol<br />
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MY PART... I was dating other guys while I was dating him and I told him, BUT I never told him, bye I'm going for a date. Should I? This is weird, I feel horrible now for him going for a date but I have done it before to him. This is like the fucking Perro del hortelano! I don't want you but I don't let you go. That's seriously fucked up.<br />
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What I do? Move on, move on, move on! I don't want this person for my love life, I don't want to tell this stories in my blog, I don't want to have this negative thoughts in my mind, so I'm ditching them here for you to support me, OK!?! Deal! After today, I'm out of this. God help me! lol<br />
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Have it ever happened to you, you love the wrong person, well I think my last 5 posts in this blog were about it, so yes I have thank you for asking. (I'm gonna start thinking that the wrong person is me! 8) ) Oh oh ok next article about this!<br />
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Business & Love, two biggest challenges of my life but in summary, people, how you care about people making sure they don't screw you, your money & feelings?<br />
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The answer to this is forgive yourself and them, tell yourself things to grow and to make yourself feel good but I know when you are in the situation is not easy - Write a blog ;) Now I feel much better <3<br />
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Don't get me wrong though humans have a big side of stupidity even these who think they don't, in fact these are the stupidest ones.<br />
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Share with me what are the topics you would love me to talk about here.<br />
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Thank you for reading, love you lots!<br />
Nerea<br />
<br />Nerea Carryonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10784614696382051782noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3983978694811062831.post-81128917804718779842016-06-02T20:05:00.003+01:002016-06-02T20:09:35.614+01:00When cheating surprises into your life!I have been bad. Very bad.<br />
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With men. Fuc*! Shit! Yep, Not is not about fuc*ing, or maybe it is! Awww anyway I don’t feel good about it. It feels like I have gone against my values, I have cheated myself! I have never believed in cheating and I have always said the truth, whatever it is. I have been influenced by many people. MY MUM. She is all over my head more than I would like sometimes. I don’t think cheating is good, that’s true, that’s what I think, that’s how I feel. Yes I have done it, a few times, against my values. But wait a minute, is this right?<br />
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What are my values?<br />
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There is a new side of me, a new side that says: Live the present and live it fully, whatever that means. And another one that says: Sometimes you don’t need to say everything, especially if it’s going to hurt somebody (That's more like the voice of my friends which I have never been too sure about).<br />
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How natural is it to stick with one person? I think it’s VERY natural when it happens naturally. What I mean is, sometimes it happens and you don’t have to force it, or make it happen. It just happens, and it’s beautiful. But sometimes it doesn’t. Usually when this happens, I believe it’s because the person you are with is not THAT person whom normally it would happen just by going with the flow.<br />
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But then another side of me says: Tell them if you feel that way. Normally, if I’m able to tell someone how I feel, it’s because I trust them enough to do so and, if this is the situation, I will probably never feel like cheating on them! SO…? Yep -It has not exit! (or that's what I want to tell myself). Anyway, welcome to my world of contradictions and unanswered questions.<br />
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If you are one of these people who live fully, who lives for the present but have old mental values that somehow you still want to keep, just think this: YOU ARE NOT ALONE. And! I don’t like to be calm because there are more weirdos out there just like me, but I actually am. Ah! Again, welcome to the latest human being stuff.<br />
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Sometimes looking for answers is not the answer; instead you have to observe the questions.<br />
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Have a beautiful life.<br />
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PS. Please do not believe 100% my stories in this blog (And in any blog your read! ;) ), sometimes writers use their creativity and imagination to write! It's not about what is about but about YOU!<br />
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THANK YOU FOR READING!<br />
Nerea<br />
(Forgive yourself and CarryOn)Nerea Carryonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10784614696382051782noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3983978694811062831.post-18999606110116369082016-02-10T14:42:00.002+00:002016-02-10T15:03:17.590+00:00Beautiful women also struggle to have sex!Here I am on a Sunday with no-one to meet, and by no-one, I mean guys, obviously! <br />
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Most of you probably think about sex but, unfortunately the wrong type of sex – not the deep, meaningful one I’m talking about. This is for one simple reason – most people have never experienced it!<br />
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Research - The simple fact that a great percentage of women do not really enjoy sex gives me this idea (please read previous articles for references, yes read all of them! ;)). If they don’t enjoy it, they obviously haven’t tried the type of sex I’m talking about! It’s almost like tantric sex...<br />
Not that I done tantra, but when I read Tantra Sex by Osho, it sounded how I felt when I managed to experience it!<br />
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This is the current situation…<br />
The guys I like:<br />
One wants to get married or wants nothing (understandable).<br />
One is looking for the princess of his dreams and this is obviously not me (I know, I don't get it either!).<br />
One hides within that horrible mask created over the years and it’s impossible to get to a deeper level (mmm, shame).<br />
One is not in London (and does not want me to go and see him, lol).<br />
This is...depressing, right?<br />
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Typically, the ones I don't like are up for it.<br />
Mmm... Too many to describe, lol, just joking, obviously! And I'm serious about joking. Really! Yes really!!!!!<br />
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Then we have Tinder... Ufff, it almost makes me want to vomit! I don't really know exactly why but it’s like – I'm too lazy to go on these dates...<br />
Bad previous experiences? Yeah maybe...but maybe also because of the false situation that is created sometimes because you are on a date. The friendship potential is gone which makes it so difficult to relax and enjoy.<br />
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So yeah, let's go back to today. This Sunday, I wanted to have a man next to me.<br />
That makes me question myself, what am I doing wrong? <br />
Being desperate? Hmmm, let me think about it.<br />
Not masturbating enough? I don't think so, but maybe...<br />
Not being so pro-active on my dating life? (Sure, for some people I'm really pro-active but in general, I'm bad compared to how pro-active I am when it comes to my career). <br />
Not playing the game properly? I hate games!<br />
Thinking of my love life as a goal? This notion came up this afternoon when I questioned why I feel stressed about not having a man nearby to call. It’s probably because I'm seeing it as a goal instead of a process.<br />
One side of me wants to have someone around because, in London, life seems easier that way. On the other side, I believe it’s ok not to have someone and I would like to not need that dependency at all. Do I need it or do I just want it? I want to want it, not to need it! (Topic to think about in a deeper level, maybe in the next article I can share my thoughts).<br />
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There are several things I think I'm doing wrong. If you are, or have been in a similar situation, keep reading as you may be doing the same things wrong as well.<br />
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The question would be. What things I can do differently?<br />
I think writing here is definitely help me out, lots! It's like a coaching session where I ask questions to find out what's happening inside someone's brain!<br />
I need to chill a bit more about the whole situation.<br />
Masturbate more? <br />
Make sure I am more pro-active. <br />
The last two makes me a bit sick as I find them VERY BORING!!!<br />
What other things can I do? It’s probably more about my own psychology and energy and sending signals. It feels like I'm not open enough for it, (energy wise) because usually, if I want something, I get it! <br />
I am sending something like I need you... Maybe, at least with the last guy I dated.<br />
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Follow up article suggestion: What do you do not to need it? (DO YOU WANT TO KNOW ABOUT THAT?)<br />
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Have a beautiful day/ afternoon/ night!<br />
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<span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;"><i>I go to sleep crying, I wake up crying, I meditate crying and I look at other guys crying. I miss you so much. I think about you constantly<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">, shout at myself to stop it, shout at myse<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">lf not to text you even though its what I fancy the most.</span></span></i></span></span> </blockquote>
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<span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;"><i>I want to know about you, how you are, how you feel, what you are doing. This is painful, or at least, I'm allowing it to be painful.</i></span></span> </blockquote>
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<span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;"><i>I'm writing because somehow it feels like I'm talking to you, pleasing that need of having you.</i></span></span> </blockquote>
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<span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;"><i>You are awesome the way you are, you are awesome the way you kiss me, and the way you look at me; thank you for these fantastic moments that I will always keep with me and will bring them when needed.</i></span></span> </blockquote>
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<span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;"><i>Want to know how you are, how you feel, what you do.</i></span></span> </blockquote>
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<span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;"><i>I miss you crazy.</i></span></span></blockquote>
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<span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;"><i>I cry inside, I feel sad and I know it sounds depressing but really feels as if I had an arm missing, something its missing, you are missing.</i></span></span> </blockquote>
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<span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;"><i>You maybe hating me right now for writing to you, please be flexible with this, I'm making a BIG effort not to text you.</i></span></span> </blockquote>
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<span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;"><i>I don't like your comments about looking for a date on Facebook, just so you know. I know your answer is: then don't break up! and you are right.</i></span></span> </blockquote>
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<span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;"><i>I have not idea how the future will look like but I can only see good things in my head. I want to be part of yours even if its only by being in your head.</i></span></span> </blockquote>
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<span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;"><i>Please don't forget me, don't forget us. It has been amazing being together, laughing, joking together. THANK YOU.</i></span></span></blockquote>
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<span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;"><i>I love you, always, Nerea</i></span></span></blockquote>
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<span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">I know guys, I know... Freak! I also know is not Shakespeare, I have notice that as well but come on there are some deep feelings there, can you feel it? Ok its simple, when you break up with someone you just miss that person! Or not! But in this case was a yes. And sometimes you write. I'm now remembering this letter it was SO useful to write this down as it helped me calm down and keep things for myself, it was never sent as you see and I can only be proud of that.</span></span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">I have been sometime ignoring you all and to be honest, yeah my love, hormonal life its being messed up a bit! lol </span></span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Is hard to tell you all stories here because also this is not an anonymous blog you know!?! lol</span></span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">And it seems all guys I like find out about this blog! (Maybe its because I tell them...) So yes thinking about a new strategy, maybe strategy of writing, maybe strategy of changing the blog name, or just not telling them! hahah well these are just excuses I know! I don't write because I don't give a sh*t! hahah noooo joking again, sorry I just woke up from the nap time and yes I feel like joking with you. I have just being very busy recently with my Youtube Channel and also my company, I will leave the links below so you can see the development of it! I'm very excited about things as much as I am about this blog and you know it!</span></span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">I want to share, help, motivate, inspire you as much as possible and trust me I will get to that point where you really feel I'm here!!</span></span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">If you are sad or missing someone, grab a paper and write everything down, get it out your head and carry on. </span></span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Love you all!</span></span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;"><a href="http://www.thehappyworldcompany.com/">My Company </a></span></span>Nerea Carryonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10784614696382051782noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3983978694811062831.post-3184690115623438012015-10-21T16:04:00.001+01:002016-02-10T14:50:22.334+00:00Moving on with pain<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; font-size: large;">God!!<br /><br />So yesterday I was SO horny all day long, I was like OMG! OMG! I need to procreate, lol.<br /><br />Then today, I feel like – who needs a guy? What for? Sex? Ppfff that’s not something I am even interested in. God! How can women deal with this stuff without getting mad? Actually, we do get mad, that was the whole point about me writing right? ‘Whateva'!<br /><br />Hello guys! I'm so happy to be here with you writing about my hormones and about how crazy the world is. Today, as you have already noticed, is all about hormones – such a new topic! First of all, I want to apologize in the name of all women in the world, sorry! Uff as soon as I'm writing this, I'm like, no! I'm not sorry, this is it guys, women have different hormonal changes because we are supposed to have kids – every month we get ready for it and that's great! Is it? Oh ok, there they come, again with these mental contradictions. Does is happen to you girls? You start talking, then suddenly you realise everything you are talking about is kind of bullsh*t and you don't even believe what you’re saying? Welcome! It does happen, what can we do is accept it, forgive ourselves and carry on. Identifying these patterns can definitely help us deal with them better, you know, go with the flow, relax, calm down. Imagine if we had no hormones!? That must be boring!<br /><br />I was supposed to write chapter two from the last article, right?<br />Hmmm ok, I do like to keep my promises. <br /><br />The guy who I am in love with needed a break! Ah! We all know what that means. Obviously, you must be thinking, what a bastard! Well he is not (ok just a bit). I did break up with him several times before this happened so he was not very happy with my behavior some time ago. In a way, I haven't been the great person I thought I was. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; font-size: large;">This is my pattern, – I start hanging out with someone who, from day one, I know is not going to be the father of my kids, but, for some unknown reason, I keep on dating that person FULLSTOP. Obviously, after a while, I end up loving that person like crazy, getting attached and wanting more and more, which sounds great! And it is, until you start creating that dependence and get angry when you don't see that person for more than three days. After this happens, I once again start thinking -OMG he is not the guy, why I have let myself fall in this situation again. SO, rationally, I start thinking I should not be with him but emotionally I can't stop it, or maybe I don't want to stop it!! (Not sure about this bit).<br />Then I start playing around with the guy, saying I may not be interested to continue this, blah, blah, blah, and he starts doubting because I have doubts, and he stops trusting my love, and then we break up. HAS THIS HAPPENED TO YOU? I’m sure it has to some of you. <br /><br />FEAR of commitment? Yeah maybe, plenty of things can happen. Also, the expectation of finding that Disney love stays... I have seen people really living the Disney love, so I want it too! </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; font-size: large;"><br /><br />Love you all, thank you for reading.<br />Nerea</span>Nerea Carryonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10784614696382051782noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3983978694811062831.post-77374620385519567972015-09-20T20:23:00.004+01:002015-09-20T20:24:18.165+01:00When you are in love with the wrong person...<div class="p1">
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<span class="s1"><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Thank you for reading guys – this blog, as you have always known, is one of my therapies – yes I do have several! Lol, I think we all have several therapies, in one way or another. Some people need some chocolate or to get drunk or speak with a psychologist, but for me it’s this – writing and taking my thoughts out my head which will hopefully help someone to connect, learn, inspire or just entertain them. Makes sense to me!</span></span></div>
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<span class="s1"><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Anyway, it’s a shame, really. But well let me say more. Normally, I would just make up other plans, but as I said I only wanted to see him today! I only wanted to spend time under the sun, singing and dancing with him, every other plan wasn't worth it.</span></span></div>
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<span class="s1"><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Oh what is the advice today? No advice, just cry with me ok? ;) </span></span></div>
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Nerea Carryonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10784614696382051782noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3983978694811062831.post-88024784553304949272015-07-10T19:52:00.001+01:002015-07-21T19:05:09.829+01:00Why this blog should exist?Girls!<br />
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This blog can help us understand men and women in a combined scientific and experience based way. These questions we all have about Why men don't cry!? Why women love talking!? Why men don't want to chit-chat after sex!?<br />
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All these answers and more are being answered here, because after many years of getting frustrated at what men do and hearing my male friends complain about what women do, I couldn't handle it anymore, so I started researching. My first question was the 3rd one on the list, <a href="http://www.itsnotmeitsmyhormones.com/2012/11/why-men-fall-asleep-after-sex-men-fall.html">'Why men don't want to chit, chat after sex!?' </a>I love talking! I hated when they only wanted to go sleep afterwards, when you can see their eyes closing <span class="s1">whilst</span> you are still talking!! Gggrr yes I hated it!<br />
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<span class="s1">So, this is why this blog is necessary, not only for my own learning and fun but because kids & adults should be learning </span><span class="s2">these</span><span class="s1"> differences to </span><span class="s2">gain</span><span class="s1"> understand</span><span class="s2">ing</span><span class="s1"> and </span><span class="s2">therefore</span><span class="s1"> deal with each other better! And not get frustrated every day!</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">How are you today? Well I'm well thank you. Just wondering who is reading this amazing blog today.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">I want to start my challenge which is writing everyday here, still thinking when I will start it because as you know I am a busy woman!</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Started a business some time ago and finally looks like is catching up!</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">I have notice something, men are usually easier clients than women in terms that they don't question that much and if they ask something you can actually understand the question!</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Women, however, answer to you like this: Well, it depends...</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Also they will over analyse massively what you are doing or saying constantly and try to prove it wrong. Awesome I know. Also they tend to understand more or at least pretend they do. Another observation has been that they usually take more notes than men. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">So, my conclusion is. If you want to build a training business. Do it for men! lol</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Out of jokes, I do love my women clients, don't get me wrong. I love when they take notes, I love they they move their heads as if they are really learning. Love when they realise things and when they enjoy or get embarrassed from the things I say or do.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">I am so grateful to be building a beautiful business as The Happy World Company, even though sometimes I will question myself how I put myself in this mess!</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Yeah today just wanted to share some of my recent thoughts. I don't go into relationships stuff because I am a bit sensitive lately. Hope you understand but will be back on track very soon for you!!</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Have an amazing day!</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Thanks for reading,</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Nerea</span>Nerea Carryonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10784614696382051782noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3983978694811062831.post-91996836117798538412015-04-13T18:58:00.001+01:002015-04-13T18:58:31.695+01:00Positive Thinking!<div class="p1">
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<span class="s1">At some point in our lives we all look at the world with a pre-set attitude or focus that we set ourselves which alters our view of things in our day to day lives. Let’s split them into two categories: positive and negative thinking. For example, going into a first date thinking ‘Ugh, this has got to be what, my 50</span><span class="s2"><sup>th</sup></span><span class="s1"> date?’ and assuming it will turn out bad like others have done, will set you up for failure. Going into the date thinking ‘This one could go well!’ and feeling excited about meeting someone new will open you up to a whole other level of things to find, some of which may even surprise you. Those little niggling things your date may do, like slurping their water, may just be due to their nerves, but your negative thinking is a pre-set attitude for failure which makes you jump on it, thinking they are a terrible date. This will most likely bring about you rejecting them quicker. Waking up and something going wrong so you say ‘I hate today!’ and then you find there are other bad things that happen in your day. It is not the day’s fault, it is you finding those bad things because you have put on that bad attitude when you got up. Likewise, for those of us who are superstitious, the 13</span><span class="s2"><sup>th</sup></span><span class="s1"> of every month. Of course you will end up finding bad things or having bad things happen to you on the day if you are frightened they will happen. You being cautious is much more likely to bring about bad events such as clumsiness, forgetting something or being late to something. The day itself is not making those things happen to you, it is most likely your behaviour. Try shrugging off the little negative things that happen – burnt toast, tripping over your hairdryer, over sleeping so you need to rush – and think ‘No matter, let’s get on with my day!’ Being positive can allow you to be happier and be the best ‘you’ you can be. </span><br />
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In relationships, I have found this negative thinking typically happens more often in females than males. Our emotional thinking and dramatising of a situation allows us to pick up on every negative thing our partners do. Males are typically much simpler. Their emotional range is usually a lot lower, so their focus is less driven by emotions, and the extent of their thinking about a particular subject is usually a lot lower; they spend less time dwelling on things.<br />
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<span class="s1">Tonight, I thought my husband was acting weird. We had made plans to meet at a nice restaurant for dinner. I was shopping with my friends all day long, so I thought he was upset at the fact that I was a bit late but he made no comment on it. Conversation wasn’t flowing so I suggested that we go somewhere quiet so we could talk. He agreed but he didn’t say much. I asked him what was wrong. He said “Nothing”. I asked him if it was my fault that he was upset. He said he wasn’t upset, that it had nothing to do with me and not to worry about it. On the way home, I told him that I loved him. He smiled slightly and kept driving. I can’t explain his behaviour. I don’t know why he didn’t say “I love you too”. When we got home, I felt as if I had lost him completely, as if he wanted nothing to do with me anymore. He just sat there quietly and watched TV. He continued to seem distant and absent. Finally, with silence all around us, I decided to go to bed. About 15 minutes later, he came to bed. But I still felt that he was distracted and his thoughts were somewhere else. He fell asleep. I cried. I don’t know what to do. I’m almost sure that his thoughts are with someone else. My life is a disaster.</span></div>
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<span class="s1">He seemed distant when he came to bed, and fell asleep without talking to her</span></div>
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<span class="s1">It is clear in her diary that she is focusing on all the tiny negative things that happened between them. As she thought about it more, focused on them more, she saw them getting worse and worse, until she had convinced herself something was very wrong. She dramatised. His reassurance that nothing was wrong, nothing to do with her and that he wasn’t upset is a highly positive reaction. It seems she almost ignored this entirely. His smile when she said I love you is a positive response she could have felt reassurance by, rather than over thinking and seeing it as a <i>small</i> smile, rather than seeing a smile. She could remind herself of his past behaviour and affections of love. Of course this is not true in every situation, but in this one it is clear there was never anything wrong, he was just preoccupied. </span><br />
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Negative thinking from either or both partners can bring about many problems in a relationship, so be forgiving of your partner’s little mistakes. Focusing on the bad things will only bring about more bad things. Everybody slips up occasionally, forgets something important to their partner, snaps at them because they are in a bad mood. We all do it. Try and focus on all the good they bring to you. Instead of thinking ‘he hasn’t moved over to cuddle me like he normally does, something is wrong’, maybe focus on what you might have missed – for example he may have walked in and the first thing he did is kiss you on the head. The first thing he does is give you affection. He missed you, he loves you, and now he needs a bit of space to wind down after work. He has chosen to be with you, like you have chosen to be with him. Find reassurance in the fact he is still there, still sharing his life with you. Notice his body language. If he is annoyed at something breaking, perhaps stomping around a little, but then he comes and joins you on the sofa, that’s a positive thing. He’s choosing to spend time with you, even when he’s in a bad mood. Perhaps if we all try to think more positively, and focus on the positive aspects of our relationships and be more forgiving of the negative, we’ll find we actually do have a very happy, healthy relationship :) </span><br />
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Nerea Carryonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10784614696382051782noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3983978694811062831.post-4660845032993377512015-03-09T09:52:00.001+00:002015-03-09T09:52:13.424+00:00The maths of love<div class="p1">
<i><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; text-align: center;">Love, what a new topic, I know! It is my favourite as you may know by now. </span><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; text-align: center;">We have a new contributor to the blog, how cool! It does not mean I won´t be writing of course I will, I love this! So tell me what you think. Nerea</span></i><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; text-align: center;">Something that has always stuck with me is the idea of ‘the one’ - what does that mean, exactly? Is there some totally perfect person out there for each of us, that we are destined to meet at some point in our lives? Romantic comedies and dramas tell us ‘the one’ is entirely possible. Some people literally spend their lives depending on this concept, and determinedly strive to find it by the time they reach 30. There is so much pressure people put on themselves to find that one perfect person, those list of ideal characteristics about their ideal person that they need to tick off because they believe it will make them happy. I don’t believe that is a realistic way to live, and statistically, it’s highly improbable. Think of the endless failed first dates, the people you throw away because they are too short, too fat, too skinny, too quiet, too chatty – because they don’t meet your desired requirements of the ‘perfect’ person for you. How are you supposed to know what is perfect for you until you find it?</span></div>
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‘The number of strangers we make eye contact with each day is hard to estimate. It can vary from almost none (shut-ins or people in small towns) to many thousands (a police officer in Times Square). Let’s suppose you lock eyes with an average of a few dozen new strangers each day. (I’m pretty introverted, so for me that’s definitely a generous estimate.) If 10 percent of them are close to your age, that’s around 50,000 people in a lifetime. Given that you have 500,000,000 potential soul mates, it means you’ll only find true love in one lifetime out of 10,000.’</span></span><br />
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I believe every person can find love. I also believe it can come from the most unlikely circumstances or situations (possibly because you’ve made them ‘unlikely’ to you because of your list of ideal characteristics!) It can find you. I met my partner a few years ago on a night out which I didn’t want to go on. I’d have much rather stayed in, curled up in my pajamas eating chocolate and watching some awful rom-com. But my housemates dragged me out, I got a drink at the bar and turned to find them and BAM. There he was. We literally walked into each other, spilling our drinks all over the both of us. We laughed, we chatted, and we’ve seen each other nearly every day since. <br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Well my life is becoming a bit mental these days and find challenging to come here to share my thoughts when really, I do love doing it and I do love you all, readers! </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">I want to appreciate your patience and also the fact that you keep coming back here to get inspired, to learn and teach!</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">This video below: You can stop looking/ searching for happiness now, is here (we all have the ability to feel it by doing nothing). Cool, eh? </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Of course you can always be more proactive in your sad or happy moments, but a key point will be, at least, to enjoy it when it comes. Of course our hormones sometimes mess us up, yes, but is part of the process anyway!</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;"><span class="s1">They say, “Leave that guy, </span><span class="s2">he</span><span class="s1"> is not good for you”, but then your body has got some sort of addiction that</span><span class="s3"> </span><span class="s1">is just </span><span class="s2">SO</span><span class="s1"> horribly attached to him. </span><span class="s2">It’s</span><span class="s3"> </span><span class="s2">like being on drugs all day long</span><span class="s1"> </span><span class="s2">- n</span><span class="s1">eeding him, wanting </span><span class="s2">to be with him </span><span class="s1">more and more when really it should be</span><span class="s3"> </span><span class="s1">me controlling my thoughts and </span><span class="s2">needs. Y</span><span class="s1">ou know what I mean? Yeah you do, or may be not? Well </span><span class="s2">logically </span><span class="s1">the guy is not for me, but physically he is (or seems to be) and then all these fears come along, “When will I meet someone interesting?” “I don’t really want to bother and start dating again, blah, blah blah…” But guys, wait, me? me? ME? Being afraid of something…? not of something but of “not getting another guy…!?!?” Come on Nerea!</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;"><span class="s2">And now, one question for you readers! Do</span><span class="s3">n’t</span><span class="s2"> </span><span class="s1">you believe your body can manipulate your thoughts to get what it wants? I do! And yes </span><span class="s2">it’s </span><span class="s1">scary. K</span><span class="s3">ind of! “</span><span class="s1">I am afraid, I won't get other guys” but really I think so because I want you (because I need you, physically I do! I mean my body does!).” Or even “</span><span class="s3">I wanna kill you” because I need food (like the movie Alive where in some cases they fought with each other and they were even close to death, may that be because they want to eat each other? Unconsciously their body is creating this?), I know I am talking some deep or complicated stuff, or that’s how it sounds to me! </span><span class="s1">OMG this is mental, but maybe true!!! Can our </span><span class="s2">bodies</span><span class="s1"> manipulate our thoughts to cover its needs? Wow</span><span class="s2">,</span><span class="s1"> I am doing a full research about this baby! Let's do it! It does make sense to me. </span><span class="s2">It’s</span><span class="s1"> like sex almost</span><span class="s2">;</span><span class="s1"> these guys that take girls and do what they want with them (even if they don’t want) -I just don’t want to say that horrible word here in this beautiful blog- , maybe their body is justifying these horrible acts? OMG, OMG. Shit! I hope this is </span><span class="s2">nonsense</span><span class="s1"> </span><span class="s2">otherwise</span><span class="s3"> </span><span class="s1">everyone could justify their acts</span><span class="s2"> at ALL times!</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;"><span class="s1">So yeah I am now almost sure that my brain can create a fear just to get the reward </span><span class="s2">it’s </span><span class="s1">looking for</span><span class="s2"> - </span><span class="s1">endorphins, dopamine, happiness. </span><span class="s3">And then it’s making sure we don’t broke up the relationship it’s attached to. </span><span class="s1">How mental! (3rd time I say “mental” sorry but it’s just SO mental! lol). Seriously, this is great! Really enjoying this writing, and yes I think I've gone a bit far and maybe </span><span class="s2">it’s</span><span class="s1"> not like my previous articles, usually a bit of </span><span class="s2">nonsense</span><span class="s1"> is involved but this may have passed the limit. I like it! Do you?</span></span></div>
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Nerea Carryonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10784614696382051782noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3983978694811062831.post-52865448367936747212015-01-21T12:06:00.000+00:002015-01-21T12:06:27.027+00:00How to propose a date?<span style="background-color: white; font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif; font-size: large; line-height: 27.200000762939453px; text-align: justify;">The last request I have had is "how to propose a date" by one of our followers.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;"><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif; line-height: 27.200000762939453px; text-align: justify;">And as I sometimes do, I will double check what internet says before I write. Of course I found WikiHow (</span><span style="font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif;"><a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Ask-for-a-Date" style="line-height: 27.200000762939453px;">http://www.wikihow.com/Ask-for-a-Date</a><span style="line-height: 27.200000762939453px;">). </span></span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif; font-size: large;"><span style="line-height: 27.200000762939453px;">Seriously, I wouldn´t go there. I found many Step by Step articles of "How to ask for a Date" and yes I can just post them on here so you can see them, as for example (</span><a href="http://www.eharmony.com/dating-advice/dating/how-to-ask-someone-out-on-a-date/#.VKu-cLv5juc" style="line-height: 27.200000762939453px;">http://www.eharmony.com/dating-advice/dating/how-to-ask-someone-out-on-a-date/#.VKu-cLv5juc</a><span style="line-height: 27.200000762939453px;">) However, this is not my usual approach to this Blog, or to life, so I will go with my "advice". I put advice between quotation marks because I don´t believe much in giving advice, instead, I believe in asking or finding out the "right" way for yourself.</span></span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">- Please have the intention to pay (at least) or take her/ him to a free activity or </span><span style="font-size: large;">whatever. Girls, yes, this is also for you - the old tradition of they (the man) always </span><span style="font-size: large;">paying for your stuff is obsolete. If you still want this, it’s cool, and they will </span><span style="font-size: large;">probably do it, but it’s never rude to have the intention to pay. This way he can see </span><span style="font-size: large;">how you see him and how you view yourself (a human being that is not superior or </span><span style="font-size: large;">inferior).</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">Be yourself, even if you fail on the date, you don’t want to attract people in our life </span><span style="font-size: large;">that can’t see your potential anyway. If you don’t like being yourself, then improve </span><span style="font-size: large;">yourself, work on yourself before you have any dates, be happy and proud </span><span style="font-size: large;">of yourself, then go for it! And kill it!! :)</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">Note. I know I didn’t focus on giving solutions today, but I thought you know them </span><span style="font-size: large;">better than me, you only need to spend few minutes thinking about it.</span><br />
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<br />Nerea Carryonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10784614696382051782noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3983978694811062831.post-77651965948792604492014-12-21T22:35:00.000+00:002014-12-22T12:41:13.652+00:00God! So lazy to open up again!!<br />
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: large;">This is what happens when you understand or at least you think you understand how love works, - sorry guys, I know, too much love lately and you may be expecting some interesting sex stories and they will come at some point! Be patient!</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: large;">As I said, when you understand that love is a decision, you understand that the person is not the most important part. I know this sounds kind of like "Whaaaaa? So I can love anyone?" Yes my darling, you can. But this is the tricky thing, you’ll go from love love love to times that love is not enough by itself and that’s why it’s important to make sure you have something in common with that person, have fun together, have similar plans, make each other laugh...</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: large;">It seems to me that after loving someone for a while something starts to die unless you put a lot of effort into it; flirting intensely, complimenting one another and keeping up the surprises; all this, in my opinion should be happening all the time, and if it’s not then something is missing. And I would like to have it, ALL THE TIME! Independently of how long we have been together.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: large;">You do it with no effort sometimes, why would you have to make efforts to do it? Is that what you want? Seriously. How cool is to go with the flow, when things happen without even planning them! </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: large;">Here’s the news! It’s scientifically proven how and why that love sparkle stops after a while, and it’s explained in one of my <a href="http://www.itsnotmeitsmyhormones.com/2014/08/i-love-love-i-mean-my-hormones.html?m=1">previous articles</a>! And yes, I know it’s painful!</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: large;">But then coming back to the title topic, for those who has just broken up from a relationship, it’s really hard to open up again to another love afterwards isn’t it? Is this because we are not ready for it? Or just because, actually we have never been really open before? I know it’s nonsense, but nothing too far from our nonsense life!</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: large;">Love should be open and ready any time, shouldn’t it? Well I don’t know, I only know that opening is hard, especially when you are not ready for it, but you have to question why you’re not ready!? This is my question for you. Any thoughts will be most welcome! </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: large;">My thoughts are, opening takes time. TRUST, you need to build trust, and this can take time, but why does it have to take time? Why don’t we just trust people straight away, they are people, like you, like us, like me!! Ok I am not sure if I am, but yeah!</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: large;">This is a bit annoying, I want everyone to trust everyone! This is my Christmas wish. I think the world would be more beautiful if we could do this. So things that take time are hard to fight for unless you are very passionate about them. We like quick results, quick love. But can we expect this? In my honest opinion, I think yes. But to find someone who does, takes time!!! The irony!</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: large;">Comments below. :)</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: large;">Nerea</span>Nerea Carryonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10784614696382051782noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3983978694811062831.post-68998744771299096652014-12-07T14:53:00.001+00:002014-12-07T14:53:47.299+00:00Sex & Mind<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: large;">Hello!</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: large;">I know, I know I have been missing for a couple of weeks! And I haven´t got a real good excuse!</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: large;">Some of you don´t know that I am running a training company, so yes that´s the main reason why I have been a bit disconnected, but trust me, I have been thinking about you EVERYDAY, really, I am not lying, I love sitting here with you all and telling you my deepest thoughts, yes ok sometimes they are not that deep, but sometimes they are! You just don´t get them! ;)</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: large;">So yes, as I was saying got a bit busier than normal these past weeks. But I´m back! Here all for you! </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: large;">Exactly, because they go together! And yes also that! Only in women´s bodies!! Yayy good guess!! Well done!</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: large;">How can you have great sex if you are thinking about tomorrow´s work or yesterday´s?</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: large;">As everything, as much focus as you are in what you are doing the best it goes. And sex is not going to be different, of course!</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: large;">This message was primarily for women, but then I realized that actually men, if you want to also use it, feel free! Girls, ok let´s be honest here, how many times on the first night you have slept with a guy, and he could not get hard?</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: large;">At least one! Right?</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: large;">This usually is not because his body does not work properly or because you are not making him horny, it is JUST HIS MIND, he is thinking about too many things at the same time!! (Yes, it also happens to men! Crazy, right?? I knowwwww.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: large;">The most common thought, </span><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 19px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">he is so worried about not </span><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 19px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">disappointing the girl</span></span><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: large;"> that it´s just not working, too much self-pressure let´s say. Usually it happens when the guy likes the girl a lot or </span><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 19px;"><span style="font-size: large;">he has not had a proper sexual experience</span></span><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: large;">, so he does not want to "fail". I know, this is sweet!!! Isn´t it, and not, I am NOT joking. Of course it´s really disappointing for the girl! But also, it´s just sooooooo sweet! Seriously guys, I don´t think you should worry that much, for girls penetration is not always a priority. Let me point out something I usually point out, there are always exceptions and I am talking from my experience and other people experiences! Yes they share them with me! How cool ah?</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: large;">Anyway, ladies, how to make sure, the guy who is just letting you down, does not do it again and again...</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: large;">Give NO IMPORTANCE to the situation, act as if nothing was happening, he will relax and become the man he always wanted to be! It works! ;)</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: large;">And in terms of the article I wanted to write, girls, the best way to enjoy sex, is, actually wanting to enjoy it, relaxing your mind, focusing on what you are doing, and trusting the man. I know it does not sound like an easy think to do but some tips to make it easier:</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: large;">Good Night! / Day</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: large;">Nerea</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: large;"><br /></span>Nerea Carryonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10784614696382051782noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3983978694811062831.post-36771254831599891832014-11-20T19:47:00.003+00:002014-11-28T11:50:38.338+00:00Guys, relationships are NOT an INVESTMENT. Thank you very much<span style="font-size: large;">Living your life as an investment can kill the whole beauty of it.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Times, serif; font-size: 18pt;">The idea of investing in yourself to grow and saving
money to invest for the future is all good and useful to a certain point. But
there is a fine line between <b>investing in your life</b> and<b> forgetting
about being adventurous.</b> </span><span style="font-family: Times, serif; font-size: 13.5pt;"><o:p></o:p></span><br />
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you focus too much on the future you can potentially forget about the present, and I
am telling you this because I have come from that place; where the future seems
more important than what is going on right now. Fortunately, I have learnt to balance this and
to focus more on the present because thinking about it, who wants to invest in
the future when we don´t really know if there is a future? </span><span style="font-family: Times, serif; font-size: 13.5pt;"><o:p></o:p></span><br />
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purpose for today was to not speak about life, although I know that´s what I do
most of the time. Let´s get back on track with what I wanted to say. GUYS,
relationships ARE NOT AN INVESTMENT. I say this because there are many times a
guy would rather not be with me at all unless there’s some guarantee of
becoming a couple or planning long-term goals together. Do you know what I
mean? Yeah, "I don´t want to waste my time...", Whaaaat??? Waste?
Excuse me, being with me even for 5 minutes is NEVER a waste! Do you get that?
Haha, I am sure you do. Nothing about what you do is a waste, is it? You always
learn something, and the most important thing is - if you are having fun, who
cares about what happens tomorrow, right? Well, this may sound a bit too
adventurous for some people, but if I have learnt something <b>in life </b>(haha,
yes, back to THAT topic) it is to enjoy the present, regardless of what happens
later. I may change my mind on this, of course, but right now, this is working
and is helping me not to regret every single minute of my <b>life</b>. :)
Beautiful right, I know, I know. I do say beautiful things. lol</span><span style="font-family: Times, serif; font-size: 13.5pt;"><o:p></o:p></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Times, serif; font-size: 18pt;">Nerea</span><span style="font-family: Times, serif; font-size: 13.5pt;"><o:p></o:p></span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">PS. Recently I heard this quote which I thought was beautiful! It touched my heart.</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">"I'd rather be with you for 3 more weeks than not have you at all!"</span>Nerea Carryonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10784614696382051782noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3983978694811062831.post-82202309071253013872014-11-10T00:20:00.003+00:002014-11-10T00:20:56.703+00:00PICK UP ARTISTS around the world!<span style="font-size: x-large;">Guys, you are boring!</span><br />
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Actually, you are pretty good I have to say - by keeping the silence during a date, approaching us from the side or whatever techniques you apply, coming with "creative" sentences to call our attention... </span><br />
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It´s awesome, but, of course there is a but! I really feel like you all sound the same. What about intuition, what about authenticity, are you forgetting this? What about YOU? Are you forgetting there is someone inside there? Listen to your voice, listen to yourself. Please</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: x-large;">If you don´t utilize what you have learnt at your PUA sessions you basically end up being a sheep, or another PUA guy. I am not here to say how bad Pick Up guys are, not at all! I actually think what you guys do is awesome, very courageous. It helps to break the ice and for men that are insecure or have difficulties to approach women, it is an awesome exercise to do and to start with. But be smart, use it! Get feedback from what you have done and CREATE your own way to approach them next time. Being original will probably get you better results and even if it doesn´t, who wants a girl that can not see your potential or a girl that can not respect your personality??</span><br />
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can really say to that is, </span>CONGRATULATIONS! I do admire you guys! And I am not being sarcastic even though I have learnt a lot of that in UK.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: x-large;">This is courageous but is even more courageous to be yourself and not give a fuc* about what everyone else thinks about you! </span><span style="font-family: Times, serif; font-size: x-large; line-height: 100%;">This
includes the times you approach women and get no numbers at all, no
fb name, nothing! But who cares? You, I guess.</span><br />
<span style="font-size: x-large;">You are doing your best to get them and you will, you just need to find the way that works for yourself.</span><br />
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You can learn techniques, rules, even models to follow, but every model is imperfect, you need to create your own after you learn the model, instead you are missing something, yourself.</span><br />
<span style="font-size: x-large;"><br />Another point for these who are starting to believe or think that Pick Up is actually Sh*t, I was reading some time ago about our origins, yeah something I normally read - where we are coming from, God, bacteria's, universe... <span style="font-family: Times, serif; line-height: 100%;">whatever
and then I got this invaluable information that I am about to
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<span style="font-size: x-large;">MEN LOOK FOR QUANTITY, WOMEN LOOK FOR QUALITY (Book: "Por qué somos como somos?", Author: Eduardo Punset), Spanish book, (really cool by the way).</span><br />
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this above sentence make sense to you right now?</span> <span style="font-family: Times, serif; line-height: 100%;">As I
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<span style="font-size: x-large;">When guys count how many women they have been/ sleep with... Perhaps, we (women) should, maybe, understand this!? </span><br />
<span style="font-size: x-large;">When, women doubt about if he is the right man, we (men) should, maybe, understand this?</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: x-large;">Nerea</span>Nerea Carryonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10784614696382051782noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3983978694811062831.post-46153989978219733862014-11-05T00:07:00.001+00:002014-11-05T00:07:32.097+00:00We are not cavemen...<br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: large;">We are entering a brave new liberal era, where boys and girls have finally declared peace on </span><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: large;">the war of sexes, divorces are not a shameful resolution, discussing periods doesn’t </span><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: large;">bring blushed faces and fathers leaving rooms and masturbation is a story genre in its own right. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: large;">Seemingly (SEMENly...too far?) - because this feels more like a trend than a social movement - it's becoming more </span><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: large;">and more popular to be ‘edgy’ and ‘courageously sarcastic’ in order to be cool and well </span><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: large;">liked. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: large;">Boys make the common mistake of primarily basing the way they want others to see them on their appearance, using flirtatious showing off of guns and wash-board abs...not many complaints here right ladies? Dopamine eat your heart out...anyway! This is </span><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: large;">because men tend to think that this would also be the way women would flirt them. There </span><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: large;">is a traditional sense of men being pressured to flirt through actions, because they were the original hunter/gatherer, words show weakness and expose </span><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: large;">one’s vulnerabilities. So naturally men walked the thin line between confident and asshole (refer to earlier article) and somehow asshole turned into 'courageously sarcastic'. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: large;">But then you get the girls who have just a little too willingly accepted the role of the sarcastic one in the group, the guy who goes shopping with you and knows exactly what you should be wearing to hide your winter weight and still look smoking and those who you can't tell which gender they are as they walk past you on the street but damn was that jacket funky. The point is it is no longer just up to the guys to make the first move, we are all individually responsible for our flirtationships. This has put a whole new pressure on both sexes as it is more of a challenge as to who can be more aloof until the other gives in and makes the first move.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: large;">So step back and look at the bigger picture. Just because times have changed doesn’t </span><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: large;">mean we still need to present confidence with things we biologically possess. (Stop whacking it out in public guys, as previously mentioned no one cares, no one asked for proof, there's sex </span><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: large;">for that...) We are far away from our basic hunter-gather role and if you can’t put this into </span><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: large;">perspective go out and hunt for your regular 3 mixed meats (3 for £10 in Tesco) and reevaulate your life during the inevitable meat-sweats. </span></div>
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Nerea Carryonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10784614696382051782noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3983978694811062831.post-2495846972956801702014-10-29T21:14:00.001+00:002014-10-29T22:00:15.874+00:00What is love anyway..?<div style="background-color: white;">
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: large;">I touched on this briefly in an earlier article but I think I feel it is necessary to expand on this a bit...What is love? Because all the films are telling us it's our prince charming coming along and saving the day, but the modern woman doesn't need a man to sweep them off of their feet, do they? And this prince charming theory very much relies on the certainty of the male that he is in love and so how do THEY know? I'm fairly sure that most women are happier not to have to rely on a guy to solve their problems. And I know whilst everyone likes to feel supported, having the responsibility for our own lives regardless of gender is somewhat freeing. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: large;">But when it comes to love, who is there to decide when it is REALLY love? Who has the power to look at a couple and tell them they aren't really in love, they are in lust, or they are young and niave... How are we supposed to know what love is? And when it is real?</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: large;">And what does it mean to be 'in love'? Is love that butterflies feeling? Finding someone we are comfortable with? Or is it just a chemical process? So obviously I have a lot of questions about this.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: large;">Apparently scientists have suggested it takes between 90 seconds and 4 minutes to decide whether or not you like someone, most of which is to do with the body language of the other person…</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: large;">The final stage is when you create a bond with someone that develops over time and stay together long enough to ensure you have babies! Scientists believe the two hormones involved in the final stage are oxytocin and vasopressin.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: large;">Oxytocin is something we have touched upon before, <i>the love hormone, </i>it is released during orgasm (the big 'O' obviously stands for oxytocin) and deepens the connection between the couple. Oxytocin interestingly is also thought to bring out the paternal/maternal side in people.</span><br />
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<span style="background-color: white; font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif; font-size: large; line-height: 27.200000762939453px; text-align: justify;">What do you mean by being confident? Is this the same as feeling confident? What is it that you want? </span><br />
<span style="background-color: white; font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif; font-size: large; line-height: 27.200000762939453px; text-align: justify;">Do you wanna show yourself as confident to get the girl independently of how you feel inside? Or you wanna become a confident person? And let yourself go, be yourself, a confident man?</span><br />
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<span style="background-color: white; font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif; line-height: 27.200000762939453px; text-align: justify;">Because seriously I can teach you how to look confident, or even Wikihow which is one of the most "interesting" sites I have ever read can also help you, they are not too wrong.</span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large; line-height: 27.200000762939453px;">If you want to become a puppet go for it, but make sure you are okay about attracting a puppet. Unless you are a GREAT actor, this may not really work. Body language is POWERFUL, it is, but if you use your body but feel shit inside it shows. Girls usually have a really good sense of emotions, so however you feel inside, independently of what you say or how you act, they may notice how you really feel; sorry for the news! Sometimes they don´t say it because they think it's sweet, but they are probably catching you out on your lies... Just so you know. Of course these are generalizations, not true for everyone.</span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large; line-height: 27.200000762939453px;">When have you ever felt confident before and how did you get there?</span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif;"><span style="line-height: 27.200000762939453px;">Overcoming my fears really helped me, overcoming my expectations, usually we, people/humans have some auto-imposed limitations where we basically think we can not do this or that because we are (...) shy, or not creative, or not confident, yes all these labels we all have (sorry not me) but you ;)</span></span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large; line-height: 27.200000762939453px;">When you do something you thought you could not do, BAAAM! Suddenly that limitation is gone and your opportunities increase! You start believing that you can do anything and trust me that REAL CONFIDENCE shows. You become someone else you could not even imagine and so your confidence increases. You act naturally confident. Exampleeeee if you are afraid to approach the most beautiful girl ever, then you have to go for it, ASAP. If you are not afraid of doing this but are afraid of talking to a stranger on the street, then you have to go for it. If you are afraid or uncomfortable of dancing in front of a stranger looking at his/her eyes, then you have to go for it, as many times as needed. If you are afraid of telling your friend you don´t want to meet him/her, then you have to go for it until you are not scared or uncomfortable anymore in that situation. That will translate in ALL areas of your life including dating, AS CONFIDENCE usually brings a better outcome.</span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large; line-height: 27.200000762939453px;">There is a little confusion with these concepts sometimes, where being confident means being stupid and arrogant. I think once you understand the differences you will not pass that fine line anymore.</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif;"><span style="line-height: 27.200000762939453px;">No doubts when talking, great straight posture, loud voice, fast decision making or at least not changing his mind 3 times in the next 2 mins to choose a restaurant! Ok this last one, if it happens to girls is kind of ok, but to guys?? No way! But what REALLY shows confidence is CONGRUENCY, independently of what you are saying! Your body says the same as mouth and your feelings, basically. If you say "I like you" make sure that is how you feel, instead say "I kind of like you" which may sound more congruent, does that make sense?</span></span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large; line-height: 27.200000762939453px;">If you need more examples please ask!</span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large; line-height: 27.200000762939453px;">If you are doubting, doubt with confidence, just say, "I am not sure, really" and respect that fact, be proud about it! But if you say "I am not sure" feeling guilty or stupid about, that will obviously show. Being confident does not mean being sure about everything and knowing or showing that you know most of the things, but if you don´t know something be proud about it, respect that fact and smile when saying, "I have no clue, I would like to learn" and then you will have learnt something new!</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif;"><span style="line-height: 27.200000762939453px;">I think the best way will be if I record myself giving you some examples, but yeah step by step...</span></span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large; line-height: 27.200000762939453px;">In conclusion, it is not what you say, but HOW you say it. And again, please don´t forget that FINE LINE where can potentially become an arrogant ass *ole.</span></span><br />
<span style="font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large; line-height: 27.200000762939453px;">Practically, if you understand what confidence means for you and ask yourself how can I FEEL confident most of the time but not be too confident, I am sure you will come up with great solutions.</span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif;"><span style="line-height: 27.200000762939453px;">Please anything that is not clear or if you need more examples just ask!</span></span></span><br />
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Nerea Carryonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10784614696382051782noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3983978694811062831.post-22672897310567811492014-10-21T23:51:00.001+01:002014-10-26T09:34:23.814+00:00Have the Best Sex ever!<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: x-large;">Do you actually want to know what you have to do to have GREAT SEX? I bet you do!</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Follow these steps:</span></span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: x-large;">1- Build a strong, trusting relationship with someone, a loving relationship I mean, where you enjoy being together, have fun with each other, and actually love each other.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">And then meet up again for one night, for a catch up. THAT IS THE BEST SEX EVER! Trust me!</span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">I know this sounds like a joke, but I mean it, seriously.</span></span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: x-large;">I mean, I mean, I meaaaaan... WOW</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: x-large;">I do remember how great sex has been with ALL my exes (not that I have had many) but yeah, there´s nothing better than to lose someone you kind of liked to then realize just how much you can potentially like each other!</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">What happens after you’ve met up for one night? You don´t wanna know! Usually it ends after a few AWESOME "catch ups" -sorry to disappoint you if that´s the case. </span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">I thought I would put a short article today as the last days I felt I was overwhelming you guys with my regular loooong stories!</span></span><br />
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<br />Nerea Carryonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10784614696382051782noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3983978694811062831.post-69258281151951556782014-10-15T00:27:00.001+01:002014-10-15T01:25:03.105+01:00Unconditional love, or not really?<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: x-large;"><i>The idea of unconditional love is...interesting...</i></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><i>First of all, let's start with some questions because I have a lot to say regarding this particular issue (let´s say challenge).</i></span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><i>Why do we like love?</i></span></span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: x-large;"><i>Why do we crave unconditional love?</i></span><br />
<span style="font-size: x-large;"><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><i>Who decided that that </i></span><i style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">unconditional love</i><i style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"> was what we wanted, biologically we are not meant to be monogamous are we?</i></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: x-large;"><i>Do you really want unconditional love?</i></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: x-large;"><i>Do we really want love or have we just been programmed by Disney to believe that we are all Princesses lost in our search for our Prince so that we feel like we need something more to find our 'Mr Right'? (But this is a whole other rant about consumerism for another time...).</i></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><i>Of all the ways you can show that you love someone, from materialistic to emotional support, why is it that we want the display of unconditional love above all else? Who took the hardest part of love and put it on a pedestal that we all now have to aim towards and feel horrible when we can't get there. We may blame the other person at that point, (who would want to take responsibility for not being able to be selfless for someone?), and therefore use excuses like 'He wasn't the one'. But there is one major flaw with the idea of unconditional love...</i></span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><i>Unconditional love is so difficult to give because it means doing something completely selfless, which sounds simple enough but you would be surprised how selfish humans are. Essentially, it is embedded in our very nature to put ourselves first because had we not been selfish, we would not have evolved to the state we are now. (That's Darwin's theory of Evolution summed up in a sentence for you. Yes, that´s right; I am hitting you up with some science knowledge.)</i></span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><i>The "problem" with a selfless act is that you can't even do it to make the </i></span><i style="font-family: Arial, serif; line-height: 100%;">another
person happy because their happiness makes you happy and therefore
can be seen as selfless.</i><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><i>.. Do you see my fundamental challenge with the idea of unconditional love? But let's break it down into some more simple actions that make it seem easier to achieve...</i></span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><i>People love to hear compliments! Unconditional love does not mean making up compliments so that the other person feels good but there is ALWAYS something nice to say about everyone if you look hard enough, you will find </i></span><i style="font-family: Arial, serif; line-height: 100%;">their
best qualities; compliment these because they will make that person
more confident and happy,</i><i style="font-family: Arial, serif; line-height: 100%;">and you care about that
person's happiness, right?</i></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><i>Just caring for the happiness of someone else sounds like something </i></span><i style="font-family: Arial, serif; line-height: 100%;">accomplishable
but, what if that meant without you?</i><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><i> What if loving someone unconditionally meant you had to let them go? Because sometimes circumstances dictate that you have to - maybe they are taking a better job, in another country </i></span><i style="font-family: Arial, serif; line-height: 100%;">which
means you’d have to put your selfish needs behind you and just let
them go.</i><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><i> Could you do that?</i></span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><i>In summary, love is beautiful. But so hard.</i></span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Hello guys, </span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Nerea here! That was a video article from my colleague, </span><span style="font-family: Arial, serif; line-height: 100%;">Jo,
which I thought was awesome, as usual!</span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">These are things we need to remind ourselves of, </span><span style="font-family: Arial, serif; line-height: 100%;">again and again, I say. We need to love unconditionally!</span><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"> Is there any other way to do it, obviously yes but love is selfish. At the end of the day, we love because we like it, not because the other person like it, right? So how the "hell", (this is something I have learnt in England, not sure if its a swearword), have we learnt to love expecting something back? </span><span style="font-family: Arial, serif; line-height: 100%;">I
think I know the answer! I saw something interesting the other day which gave me
a clue – a</span><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"> father saying to his daughter "Let me give you a kiss, you did very well!" </span></span><br />
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<span style="font-size: x-large;"><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">So, she basically got a kiss because she did well in something, shit! There you are! Exchanging "right" behavior for love! I am sure, (kind of), that education </span><span style="font-family: Arial, serif; line-height: 100%;">has
a big part in this because when</span><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"> do we get a kiss for doing nothing? When do we get a hug for no reason? when do we get love for nothing? </span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-large;"><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Of course I am exaggerating a bit</span><span style="font-family: Arial, serif; line-height: 100%;">,
as this does not happen in all cases, but there is a majority of
people that receives this education – that they </span><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">get affection only when they "deserve" it. Just a quick point here </span><span style="font-family: Arial, serif; line-height: 100%;">– when people feel bad or are badly behaved,</span><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"> one of the best solutions is giving them love and I am not only saying this </span><span style="font-family: Arial, serif; line-height: 100%;">because I know everything</span><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"> but because they are probably trying to call your attention! </span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-large;"><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">The good news </span><span style="font-family: Arial, serif; line-height: 100%;">is,
is the fact that we have learnt something means </span><span style="font-family: Arial, serif; line-height: 100%;">we
can unlearn it!</span><span style="color: #4f81bd; font-family: Arial, serif; line-height: 100%;"> </span><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">YAY! Let´s do it, Love, love, love as much as you want, but please do not expect an extra reward back other than the pleasure of doing it! This is beautiful, I am telling you, it is beautiful</span><span style="font-family: Arial, serif; line-height: 100%;">.</span></span></div>
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not </span></span><span style="color: black; line-height: 100%;"><span style="font-family: Arial, serif;">love
you enough</span></span><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">, check yourself out, check if you are ok, if you are happy with yourself and carefree because if not, then </span><span style="line-height: 100%;"><span style="font-family: Arial, serif;">there’s
your answer – </span></span><span style="color: black; line-height: 100%;"><span style="font-family: Arial, serif;">when
you love enough</span></span><span style="line-height: 100%;"><span style="font-family: Arial, serif;">,</span></span><span style="color: black; line-height: 100%;"><span style="font-family: Arial, serif;">
you have it all.</span></span></span></div>
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(well yes, there is one),</span><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"> and in this case probably the most painful one you can ever experience </span><span style="font-family: Arial, serif; line-height: 100%;">(emotionally
wise),</span><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"> Love is so beautiful that not being able to give it is such </span><span style="font-family: Arial, serif; line-height: 100%;">pitiful
shame, not to mention, a misery.</span><span style="color: #4f81bd; font-family: Arial, serif; line-height: 100%;"> </span><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Is fuck*ing painful! </span><span style="font-family: Arial, serif; line-height: 100%;">Shit,
I’m s</span><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">wearing, Oops again! Can you feel my pain? This is not good! Seriously! Is PAINFUUUULLLLL!!! but ok, let´s breath, relax, calm down and love ourselves so we can replace </span><span style="font-family: Arial, serif; line-height: 100%;">the
love that wasn’t/hasn’t been given.</span></span></div>
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usual, my </span></span><span style="color: black; line-height: 100%;"><span style="font-family: Arial, serif;">head
</span></span><span style="line-height: 100%;"><span style="font-family: Arial, serif;">won’t</span></span><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"> stop bringing new ideas to this topic, so I could keep going and going and going with new concepts and ways to experience love, in case you don´t have a partner to do it; but I have heard that less is more, so let´s leave this as it is!</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-large;"><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">The pleasure of love should be giving it, not receiving it! Of course is nice to feel cared and loved, but if you don´t love, the emotions are not even half strong as </span><span style="font-family: Arial, serif; line-height: 100%;">they
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